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Safe Space

Safe Space

We talk a lot in this ministry about creating a “safe space”—on the weekends, in R groups. Our culture also uses those words, to talk about creating safe spaces within universities, or online, for example. But those safe spaces mean something different. That safe space is a place to be safe from people who disagree with you, or have a different viewpoint from you. A place where you can be safe from uncomfortable feelings, from having to reconcile the gaps between how you should live and how you actually live. A place where you never have to feel uncomfortable, or feel anxious, ashamed, or sad.

The Truth vs Feeling Good

The Truth vs Feeling Good

I started this ministry 16 years ago and it has been the greatest joy of my life.  The power of God’s love and presence on the weekends is amazing and I am immensely grateful for the impact He has had on so many people.  The weekends have also been my greatest avenue for personal growth. Over the years, through the ministry I have been confronted with my own weakness and brokenness.  In fact, the ministry’s emphasis on embracing our brokenness stems from my own awareness of how deeply broken I am and thus how much all of us are.

I had no idea

I had no idea

Garbage in, garbage out is a familiar term in the computer industry. I discovered, in the most profound and personal way, that it can apply to us mortals as well. In my case, that discovery, which was an entirely spiritual event, took place during a weekend retreat at Men at The Cross, and it was amazing. It was what I like to call “A God Thing.”

Surviving vs. Thriving

Surviving vs. Thriving

An important question to ask oneself is am I thriving in life, or am I simply surviving? A few years ago, I went to my favorite national park – Yosemite Valley.  A couple of days after my 12 hour hike up to Half Dome and back, when I finally had the energy to reflect on the hike itself, I became aware of a few things.