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Tribalism

Tribalism

“Father, deliver me from tribalism.” This has been a consistent prayer of mine these days. Like all humans, I know that I am prone to unconsciously identify too closely with a group that shares my values and prejudices. It is so much more comfortable and “safe” to belong to a group of likeminded people, isn’t it? Especially, when we are “right.” (Sarcasm)

PIVOTING: A Pathway to Peace (even in a Pandemic)

PIVOTING: A Pathway to Peace (even in a Pandemic)

To accept our reality, including obstacles, frees us to pivot and continue to pursue the prize. This is to accept the goodness of God, even in troubling circumstances, and trust that he is moving us toward a greater good – though the journey may be very hard.

Consider your actions, attitudes and heart toward COVID-19, quarantining and masks, politics, social injustices, your problems and pains, and the many antagonists in your life, including the messages and imaginations that live within you.  Consider how you resist, the consequence, and the opportunity to accept and pivot.

Being Present to Others

Being Present to Others

One of the most common challenges people encounter in relationships is how to truly be “present” with one another. Being present with someone primarily involves listening with intention and paying attention to them on different levels. When we experience a person who...

Safety 101

Safety 101

The words “triggers” and “safety” are referred to frequently in our society today. People are expressing a strong need to feel “safe” and along with it they focus on the “triggers” that they believe are keeping them from feeling safe. In our ministry we are aware that creating a “safe space” for people is an important part of what we do on our weekends. We do this by being non-judgmental, accepting people where they are at and giving support to one another. I call this “Safety 101.” It’s true that we do need to feel safe. But how?

Surviving vs. Thriving

Surviving vs. Thriving

An important question to ask oneself is am I thriving in life, or am I simply surviving? A few years ago, I went to my favorite national park – Yosemite Valley.  A couple of days after my 12 hour hike up to Half Dome and back, when I finally had the energy to reflect on the hike itself, I became aware of a few things.

Safe Space

Safe Space

We talk a lot in this ministry about creating a “safe space”—on the weekends, in R groups. Our culture also uses those words, to talk about creating safe spaces within universities, or online, for example. But those safe spaces mean something different. That safe space is a place to be safe from people who disagree with you, or have a different viewpoint from you. A place where you can be safe from uncomfortable feelings, from having to reconcile the gaps between how you should live and how you actually live. A place where you never have to feel uncomfortable, or feel anxious, ashamed, or sad.