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Leadership Lessons & Core Values:

Leadership Lessons & Core Values:

I react to criticism, judgments, fair and unfair evaluations, and not getting my way. I’m reactive to a friend’s decline of an invite, or my wife’s challenge of my perspective. I’m reactive to the rain that washed away my plans for the day. I am reactive to pain and discomfort.
 
I don’t like hangnails, let alone the reduced capacity I’ve experienced this week with a bout of Covid. I avoided it for two and a half years and it finally got me. I was due a turn, I suppose, and yet I still reacted. I was ready to blame whoever gave this to me. I felt pity, why me God, you know I’m busy. I reacted with guilt, as I’ve got a job to do, and rest to recover keeps me from proving my value. Lot’s of false selves can emerge from reactivity. By understanding reactivity, I have the opportunity for growth, transformation, and the pursuit of a mature way of responding.
Leaders regulate reactivity to respond effectively and in love.

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Tribalism

“Father, deliver me from tribalism.” This has been a consistent prayer of mine these days. Like all humans, I know that I am prone to unconsciously identify too closely with a group that shares my values and prejudices. It is so much more comfortable and “safe” to belong to a group of likeminded people, isn’t it? Especially, when we are “right.” (Sarcasm)

PIVOTING: A Pathway to Peace (even in a Pandemic)

PIVOTING: A Pathway to Peace (even in a Pandemic)

To accept our reality, including obstacles, frees us to pivot and continue to pursue the prize. This is to accept the goodness of God, even in troubling circumstances, and trust that he is moving us toward a greater good – though the journey may be very hard.

Consider your actions, attitudes and heart toward COVID-19, quarantining and masks, politics, social injustices, your problems and pains, and the many antagonists in your life, including the messages and imaginations that live within you.  Consider how you resist, the consequence, and the opportunity to accept and pivot.

Being Present to Others

Being Present to Others

One of the most common challenges people encounter in relationships is how to truly be “present” with one another. Being present with someone primarily involves listening with intention and paying attention to them on different levels. When we experience a person who...

Safety 101

Safety 101

The words “triggers” and “safety” are referred to frequently in our society today. People are expressing a strong need to feel “safe” and along with it they focus on the “triggers” that they believe are keeping them from feeling safe. In our ministry we are aware that creating a “safe space” for people is an important part of what we do on our weekends. We do this by being non-judgmental, accepting people where they are at and giving support to one another. I call this “Safety 101.” It’s true that we do need to feel safe. But how?

Surviving vs. Thriving

Surviving vs. Thriving

An important question to ask oneself is am I thriving in life, or am I simply surviving? A few years ago, I went to my favorite national park – Yosemite Valley.  A couple of days after my 12 hour hike up to Half Dome and back, when I finally had the energy to reflect on the hike itself, I became aware of a few things.